Life coaches may help a client find meaning in random events that occur when coaching. A spilled beverage, noise outside the room, or any interruption the client perceives is not an accident if the coach uses the opportunity to help the client discern deeper meaning.
When I coached, for example, my client dropped her pen as she took notes. When I asked, "What’s going on with you and your pen?" I was able to help her go more deeply into the subject of our meeting. She reflected, “I’m concerned about writing about my business because customers are attracted to competition for services that I don’t want to provide. I have difficulty writing about that!” We explored this issue, which included the dropped pen, and she reframed her beliefs about self-promotion. She realized the value she provides in her business is a benefit for her clients, her value proposition, rather than marketing for her benefit.
She learned from the dropped pen that she could discard her old belief that required her to market similar to her competition (the dropped pen) and instead, she could market to her strengths and values. This new perspective gave her permission to pick up the pen and write about who she truly is for her clients.
What examples can you identify when random events give a client and coach a new opportunity for deeper wisdom? How have you applied the idea that there are no accidents in support of your learning?
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Richard Wilberg, MS, PLCC, ACC
Life Coach for Personal Fulfillment and Career Success
About the Author
Richard Wilberg is a coach, musician, photographer, and former business leader who lives in Madison, Wisconsin.