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Cool Dude

1/19/2021

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​Scene One – DOESN’T SEEM RIGHT – Ace Diner, Bluemound Road, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, April 1951
I sit on a stool at a lunch counter between Dad and Uncle Larry.  My feet dangle above the floor like tetherballs at the end of skinny ropes that swing in the wind at my playground. Dad and Uncle Larry dunk ends of one-half of their cake donuts into brown-stained, white steaming mugs of coffee. Hills Brother’s Coffee, a neon sign on the wall, glows in the early morning light.  I dunk one-half of a glazed donut into a glass of milk just like a man.
Uncle Larry turns toward me. “Bobby, please pass the cream.” He then leans forward and looks past me at Dad. His voice is quiet, yet firm. “I feel bad about the sailor we cheated.”
 
Dad turns his head to Uncle Larry. “Why? He said he wanted a low mileage car. That’s what I sold him, thanks to your help.”
 
“I’m not sure about that. I don’t think it’s right to take advantage of discharged war vets with a wad of cash and a need for a used car. The other night when I was setting back mileage for another customer, I left the electric drill on too long and the speedometer cable turned the car’s mileage past zero. I had to reverse the drill and add 20,000 miles back onto the car’s odometer.”
 
“Larry, you probably helped him because when he goes to sell the car it will be worth more. Look at it this way. There’s a shortage of cars and many buyers. We’re helping vets get reestablished. Times are tough. Remember, you have rent to pay and I have a family to support.”
 
“I don’t know. It doesn’t seem right.”
 
Scene Two – SORT OF – Bobby’s Wrigleyville apartment, Chicago, Illinois, June 1979
“Who’s the cool dude in front of the airplane, Bobby?” Debbie lifts a black and white print from a box of photographs.
 
“That’s my dad.” I reach for the photo. “The plane in the background is a commercial carrier. Dad flew small aircraft after this photograph was taken but nothing this large. He used to dream of flying his living room chair before he obtained a private pilot’s license. He flew out of Timmerman Field where he met Bill Brandon, the TV weatherman who owned a Piper Cherokee. Dad would passenger with Brandon or rent a Cessna 150 when he wanted to fly on his own.”
 
“Was he a good pilot?”
 
“Sort of. He had trouble with landings.”
 
“Landings are the most important part of flying.”
 
“No kidding. Tora! Tora! Tora! like a WWII bomber dives toward an American aircraft carrier.”
 
“I saw that movie.”
 
“Right. Dad didn’t believe in slow landings. He should have been a helicopter pilot. I recall
Mother had one flight with him. I asked why she didn’t fly with him more often. She said, ‘I don’t like to fly, dear.’” 
 
Scene Three – PLAY ACTING – Dan’s farmhouse kitchen, Ashton, Wisconsin, June 2019
“Bobby, look at these photos.” Dan slides three 8x10-inch black-and-white photographs across his kitchen table.
 
I lay photos side by side. “Ugly! Dead? Or, is he playing possum?”
 
Dan waives toward an open window. “I was walking Biscuit up the path we normally take and suddenly he made a beeline for the barn. I called and Biscuit wouldn’t return. He was circling something near the barn wall. I walked over and smelled the stench before I saw the body. Phew, almost made my stomach turn.”
 
“So, the possum was dead.” I push the photos back to Dan.
 
“Well, as you can see in this photograph, with matted fur, eyes wide open, and tongue hanging from his mouth, he looked dead. I lifted Biscuit and walked to the barn for a shovel. When I returned to bury the body, the possum was gone.”
 
“OMG, play acting.”
 
“Sure seems that way. Although possums resemble a cross between a rat and woodchuck, they are neither rodent nor mammal. Did you know that the North American Possum, also known as an Opossum, is the only North American Marsupial? Like a kangaroo, baby possums are called joeys. They hide in their mother’s pouch to nurse and develop. When they are ready for the world they climb out and ride their mother’s back until independent.”
 
“Yeah, but I still don’t like them.”
 
“I know. Possums have a bad rap because of their rat-like appearance, ability to play dead, and mimic rotting flesh. However, possums are not all bad. An average possum eats over 5,000 ticks a year. Many of these ticks carry Lyme disease. And, possums are fiercely loyal, protecting home and family above all else.”
 
THE END

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Richard Wilberg, MS, PLCC, ACC 
Creativity Coach for Personal Fulfillment and Career Success


8 Comments
Dave Zenner
1/19/2021 07:08:57 pm

Thank you for vindicating me!

I've been asking family members if they remember Dad taking us to the ACE Diner. With a big neon sign, and almost every wall or counter made of stainless steel, embossed in a diamond pattern.

This would've been the very end of the '50s, and I was only 4 or 5 at the time, so I've been doubting my memories. Doesn't help that every single one of my surviving family has looked at me like I'm delusional.

Oh, and now I live near The Heights... and I dunk lime/blueberry scones in my overpriced coffee (you mentioned this back in April...:)

ps, Now, at 51st and Bluemound, is a great cafe: Story Hill BKC. Wonderful multi-ethnic breakfasts!

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Richard Wilberg
1/23/2021 05:04:29 pm

Dave,
Indeed. Chrome and diamonds. Set your family straight! Thanks for being a reader and remembering scones and coffee at The Heights in April. I just finished a story set in another Milwaukee landmark, The Milky Way drive-in on Port Washington Road. Where did you go to high school?

I'll try the cafe at 51st and Bluemound some day!

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Wayne Brabender
1/21/2021 01:02:15 pm

Richard, cool stories! Besides the father figure, I think the possum is a pretty cool dude too. Both are interesting and loyal to their families, even if they don't always make good decisions and others may not always like what they do. We all have some good and bad in us. Hopefully, the good usually outweighs the bad. Thanks for your latest creation. Wayne

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Richard Wilberg
1/23/2021 05:06:23 pm

Wayne,
Yes, possum is a cool dude. Thanks for your perspective. Keep moving corners, my friend!

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jerrell angell
1/25/2021 04:55:07 am

Richard:

Read your latest blog - we are neither all bad nor good.
Bobby sure does get around!! My comments:
Scene 1 - sounds like a story about rationalization - it’s ok to do bad (turning back odometer) if some good results (buyer can sell car for more). But I would argue you can’t rationalize ethics - just do the right thing regardless of ramifications down the road.

Scene Two - Bob’s mom was doing the right thing - not blaming Bobby’s Dad for her fearful flight. She took the high road - with a simple reply - “I just don’t like flying”. Saying anything other would probably upset both Bobby and his Dad. She did the right thing.

Scene Three - obviously this is a story about good and bad - don’t always look at the bad side of things. Even though the possum sinks, plays dead, and is basically a scary animal - it does a lot of good - eating those insects. Can’t judge a book by its cover!

It would be nice to know why Bobby and Bobby’s mother acted the way they did - by expressing their thinking it from an ethnically, morally, or just doing the right thing standpoint.

Keep up the good work!

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Richard Wilberg
1/25/2021 08:00:35 am

Jerry,
Thank you for your thought provoking comments. We are, as you point out, conflicted beings. Possum doesn't worry or judge. He is who he is. Thank you for being a consistent reader. I value your reflections.

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Janice link
2/9/2021 01:02:42 pm

As always, great metaphors! Our lives are always a result of how we choose to look at things. I love the way you show how the same event can be seen from such different perspectives, and then go on to change the course of the viewer. We do create our lives, one choice at a time! Thank you

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Richard Wilberg
2/23/2021 08:02:44 am

Janice,
Thank you for your wisdom.Yes, every day is a choice for the rest of our lives.

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